Thursday, 26 June 2008

• Long distance....just space in between~

  I hate when people say it never works. Actually i hate the word "never".....just because it didn't work for you, or because, you can't deal with one, doesn't mean it never will work out. You can take your negativity else where. All my serious relationship were long distance. Maybe its because i get bored of people easily, or the fact that i am sick of girls here.  Maybe i love my independence, or just a combination of some of these stuff.... I only consider dating someone here, once, maybe max twice. And when i did, it wasn't as grand. (people say being in one year of a long distance relationship, is like 4 years.)  It takes a lot of trust, patience and understanding, most people who never had been in one, would never understand. It only works when two people are committed to making the relationship work.
  
  You always find different ways of communicating..and sometimes you find things out about the person, you wouldn't find out face to face.....Being away from someone can help you to value them and you may be less likely to take them for granted.... When you do see them, it may be more special and exciting. The additional challenges and commitment of a long distance relationship might make the relationship stronger. Basically if you can do long distance relationship and come out of it, you basically can't withstand pretty much anything and everything.
  
  Yea i have been through it all, the happy times, the distrust, the sleepless nights. but i would do it again, because it just meant i was willing to go through that much with you, for you.
  
  Contrary to what the cynics say, distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold~!
  
  Its not going to work if you're needy and constantly needing attention. Trust is also very important....When i am in a long distance relationship or any kind of relationship. I trust my girl. You can say, even to a fault...If you ask any of my ex's...I am not the jealous type. (if they wanted to go clubbing, i would be the first to say have fun, only to call me to make sure they got home safe...if they wanted to hang out with a guy, i would let them, unless they gave me any suspicion not too..) I give my woman freedom and hope that they don't take advantage of my faith in them. I have heard horrid stories of over protective guys these days, i am sure some of you ladies have met your share of those......(most guys aren't like this, and i would hope, they would know how lucky they were). I always figured if they were going to cheat on me, i can always do better. I never thought it would hurt as much as people was saying. Until it actually happened. ha
   
  Not having someone that you care about close to you, especially when you might need them for emotional support (or a hug!) can be tough. If you are feeling this way, you might ask for a hug from another friend or family member. Even though it's not the same, it can sometimes be a good substitute until next time you meet up...For some people, you might stray away or be tempted to cheat on the person. Your basically playing with fire. and most of the time, the other person gets burned. If you care about the person, why even risk it?
  
  Feeling lonely and sad at not being able to go out regularly and have fun, or be able to be more involved in their life. If you are feeling this way, give that person a call to say hi - hearing their voice might help you to work through the loneliness and look forward to your next meeting. 
  
  
  To those in one right now, i sympathize with with your situation. Patience is the key. Its with all relationship but especially a long distance one. My thoughts if not my heart goes out to you dreamers.
  
  I believe if you truly care/love someone....distance is just space in between. It is only as far apart as our hearts will let it.
  
  

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