does it matter in the end?

Friday, 20 June 2008

does it matter in the end?
Money?

My friend J is getting married to this woman who makes more than him. Actually 7X more than him. (she actually has a funny story about trump, that i promised i won't tell anyone) anyways.. I know some guys who's ego is so big they won't marry/date a girl who makes more than them. But my friend doesn't care. As for me, I can go either way. All i care is for my gf/wife to do something she is passionate about, that makes her happy. I've met so many successful people in my lives. (this guy i knew since my freshman year, he is a multimillionaire and he owns 3 ferrai's, a few lambos, and a bentley.... but he's never happy, ...jumping from girl to girl....he feels he is entitled to do whatever he wants.......always wanting the next big thing to keep himself content....looking for something to fill his emptiness....) I live in nyc, there's successful people where ever you go. Its like what else do you have to offer? it doesn't really impress me.....

Education?
Does it matter? I know some guys/girls who won't even date anyone who didn't go to college. I don't think its wrong to think like that. Its their personal preference. Most of the people in my family went to ivys. (Cousin went to Cornell school for hotel management, Other cousin went to M.I.T and went to get her M.D. at yale....and my younger cousin is a sophomore at John hopksins now, anyways the list goes on and on...but who cares?. Korean families pressure their kids to go to these schools. (its probably to show off, and brag to their friends)..are these kids happy? some are, but some aren't....they just go to make their parents happy, (I tell my cousins to find happiness in themselves, parents aren't perfect, they will let you down....).....But that doesn't mean the people who didn't go to college are stupid. Actually i have the most interesting conversations with people who never went to college. They think outside of the box. And its not some text book answer i am use to. maybe its because i get bored easily. Your always going to find someone who has to prove how smart she/he is. They usually say stuff like.."i was gifted as a child, and i went to so and so".....(in my mind....who cares ? there is always going to be someone smarter. You don't have to prove to me how great you are) you can say "i go to cornell or some school," but when you look at their actions. They are pretty immature. They try too hard. Its like yea you got into some school, but you sure as hell don't act like you belong.

Looks?
When a guy says he can't date/marry someone fat/ugly, a girls calls him shallow...but if a girl says, she can't date/marry some who isn't tall/rich..... its acceptable. is it a double standard?....maybe..i guess...anyways, i have learn never to judge someone. because your be eliminating so many great people in your lives. I just want to say to those people, yea your beautiful and all. But who cares.. You didn't earn your beauty, you just got lucky. Its pathetic when you think about it. Its people like that who always lack inner depth. I pity them.......

maybe i am a dreamer, but for me, these things don't matter to me, it never did...... Looks fade, money disappears, education is just a piece of paper. People has a tendency to make list of things they look for in their dream girl/guy. I do it to sometimes, but when i find someone who truly makes me happy. The list is just...what its suppose to be. a pointless list. nothing more. if i followed my list, i wouldn't have dated any of the great people in my life. (too young, lived too far away, not skinny enough, not big enough, came from a broken family, didn't went to college, not korean, and yea the list goes on and on)

In the end what truly matter was that, they made me happy at the time.... They were their for me when i needed them most. By their actions they showed me how much they cared for me. You can idolize someone for having these qualities on your list, but are they truly making you happy. Are they?

In the end, does it really matter? Think about it....