Money? My friend J is getting married to this woman who makes more than him. Actually 7X more than him. (she actually has a funny story about trump, that i promised i won't tell anyone) anyways.. I know some guys who's ego is so big they won't marry/date a girl who makes more than them. But my friend doesn't care. As for me, I can go either way. All i care is for my gf/wife to do something she is passionate about, that makes her happy. I've met so many successful people in my lives. (this guy i knew since
my freshman year, he is a multimillionaire and he owns 3 ferrai's, a few lambos, and a bentley.... but he's never happy, ...jumping from girl to girl....he feels he is entitled to do whatever he wants.......always wanting the next big thing to keep himself content....looking for something to fill his emptiness....) I live in nyc, there's successful people where ever you go. Its like what else do you have to offer? it doesn't really impress me.....
Education? Does it matter? I know some guys/girls who won't even date anyone who didn't go to college. I don't think its wrong to think like that. Its their personal preference. Most of the people in my family went to ivys. (Cousin went to Cornell school for hotel management, Other cousin went to M.I.T and went to get her M.D. at yale....and my younger cousin is a sophomore at John hopksins now, anyways the list goes on and on...but who cares?. Korean families pressure their kids to go to these schools. (its probably to show off, and brag to their friends)..are these kids happy? some are, but some aren't....they just go to make their parents happy, (I tell my cousins to find happiness in themselves, parents aren't perfect, they will let you down....).....But that doesn't mean the people who didn't go to college are stupid. Actually i have the most interesting conversations with people who never went to college. They think outside of the box. And its not some text book answer i am use to. maybe its because i get bored easily. Your always going to find someone who has to prove how smart she/he is. They usually say stuff like.."i was gifted as a child, and i went to so and so".....(in my mind....who cares ? there is always going to be someone smarter. You don't have to prove to me how great you are) you can say "i go to cornell or some school," but when you look at their actions. They are pretty immature. They try too hard. Its like yea you got into some school, but you sure as hell don't act like you belong.
Looks? When a guy says he can't date/marry someone fat/ugly, a girls calls him shallow...but if a girl says, she can't date/marry some who isn't tall/rich..... its acceptable. is it a double standard?....maybe..i guess...anyways, i have learn never to judge someone. because your be eliminating so many great people in your lives. I just want to say to those people, yea your beautiful and all. But who cares.. You didn't earn your beauty, you just got lucky. Its pathetic when you think about it. Its people like that who always lack inner depth. I pity them.......
maybe i am a dreamer, but for me, these things don't matter to me, it never did...... Looks fade, money disappears, education is just a piece of paper. People has a tendency to make list of things they look for in their dream girl/guy. I do it to sometimes, but when i find someone who truly makes me happy. The list is just...what its suppose to be. a pointless list. nothing more. if i followed my list, i wouldn't have dated any of the great people in my life. (too young, lived too far away, not skinny enough, not big enough, came from a broken family, didn't went to college, not korean, and yea the list goes on and on)
In the end what truly matter was that, they made me happy at the time.... They were their for me when i needed them most. By their actions they showed me how much they cared for me. You can idolize someone for having these qualities on your list, but are they truly making you happy. Are they?
In the end, does it really matter? Think about it....
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maybe its because i'm feeling a bit down....
but in the end...we all die. simple as that. x_x
-Michelle
@lil_teen_azn_grl -
If you look at life that way. you will never enjoy it. In life we must "live".....not always worrying about death, because if you keep focusing on death. whats the point on living? stay strong girl....keep yo head up~ =)
mmm.. personally.. for me.. they don't have to go to school.. but the guy i'm dating can't be an idiot with no ambitions. my friend agrees.. doesn't have to go to school but she can't be so ditzy that everyone's like... what.. the.. fuck.. but yeah. i say this cuz i went to ubc for science & i hated that school. now i go to some technical school for what i love and i'm happy :) not to mention.. after people grad from ubc they end up coming to my school cuz they can't find jobs anyway ahahaha.. i only go to school so i'm able to get a job in an industry i'd want to be in anyway.. otherwise i probably wouldn't. hate school. education doesn't matter.. much..
"don't mess with the gene pool."
ps. you're lucky to be in nyc. god damn. :(
@angelgirl69 -
yea i know what you mean. (ambition is a great thing...) but I am pretty modest and i am not the type of person who has to show off everything they are going to do. I think its because when i was in high school i got awards and stuff, and i told my parents, thinking they would say..."omg i am so proud of you" but instead they said..."those awards are for yourself" i was kinda hurt by it. so i just keep everything to myself....
i am happy your doing something you love. Keep at it. Keep dreaming bigger.
and nyc is okay. =P you get use to the chaos. where you from?
@emotionallynotavailable -
Geez, that's rough - awards are for yourself. I think Asian parents can be kind of cold unintentionally sometimes.hermmm.. i like my guys educated.. but not just book smart.. but street smart as well. when i first started dating alex.. i felt like crap. like "oh.. i dont go to college but my bf is already a soph at a uni... i feel so dumb" ... bleh. i guess school is to just help me get the education i need so that i can get a better job.. (instead of working in crap ass retail).. alex also did push me to go back to school. i dont know if its because he doesnt want his girlfriend to be dumb.. or.. the other? (what would the other be?).. bleh. whatever..
some people may not think alex is cute... some might... i dont think i'm great... but to eachother.. we're perfect.
money, we both dont have.. but its nice. we dont need that to be happy.
/shrugs.. there are just too many crazy superfical people in this world.
@be_lie -
not really...i don't think anyone is really smarter than anyone. its all subjective.
@miss_prettyinpink -
i guess then it all depends on what is important to you. some peoples priorities are out of whack.
This was a beautiful, deep, reflective read and I agree with almost everything you had to say above. I'm recommending this.
Have a good day
@Sk1z0fr3n1c_Fr3d -
i think your bf just wants you to succeed in whatever you do.
as people grow in maturity, i think people truly understand whats really important.
@pink_ittenz -
ahh thanks.....i hope you have a great day too.
@adifferentkindofbeautiful -
actually whats your definition of successful? i know a friend who graduated from harvard this year. and he can't find a job. so he works as a part time tutor....he doesn't make a lot but he does what he loves.
@emotionallynotavailable -
It depends, but I don't think successful and looks are the same thing. They are related, but not the same.Oh that grandma in flushing! Apparently she's not telling the truth. Her son picks her up and drives her. My mom takes a few clases in flushing and was telling the class the story. Half the class said they are someone dropping her off and picking her up..that it looks like her son and that they didn't know why she would lie about that just to sell more stuff. How disappointing.
@ForevaFighter -
what? no way...you sure its the same har-money? i refuse to believe its the same sweet sweet lady. because i know theres another har-money who does it across from mcdonalds too.
as i've gotten older, the preference for physical beauty has slowly shifted to two things: i need a girl who can make me laugh and i need a girl that can beat my ass at ping pong. preferably she can do both at the same time.
don't get me wrong. she still has to be a looker, but as to what shape and form those looks take on, i don't really have a specific set in mind.
@woodrowwilson -
hey man. i totally agree with you. beauty is in the eye of the beholder. and a girl who can kick my ass at ping pong and who can make me laugh. would be just jawsome. which mean she can probably kick my ass in other things. ha j/k.....and we can laugh about it later.
hey doesnt' have to be super rich, he should be educated or have a brain in that head of his and looks matter to a degree.
He should be educated or ambitious. I'm a very ambitious person and I want to be with someone who is similar to me in that degree. I want him to challange me and inspire me to work harder and be a better person. Someone who's not ambitious or educated would have the opposite effect on me.
One has to be attracted to the person, but looks are not everything because looks will fade and in the end all you're left with is each other's company.
And women do get slack for choosing a rich guy. Hence the term GOLDDIGGERS.
And as for tall? I think thats innate, we don't want to give birth to babies who could potentially be short. And as for tall women, it just looks odd dating a short guy... don't you think?
@stinkysocks -
ahh commitment. thats a good way at looking at things i suppose. so if someone didn't go to college...and did basketweaving for 4 years. you would be down? xD i asked my friend, does money matter? she said no...he has to be ambitious...so i asked her if she married a ambitious art painter, who made no money.. would you marry him. she said no. go figure..=P
and i have dated girls taller than me. I would go to restaurants and people would be like. how did he do it. i guess its all subjective.